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I caught up with a good friend the other day.  It had been a while and she was telling me the events that had been going on in her life, the good, the bad and the ugly.  We were talking about work when she said,  “And the other day, I cried in front of HR, I can’t believe I cried in front of HR”.

“Don’t worry” I told her, “You know what, this very morning I stopped off to by a new box of tissues.  People in HR, we’re used to it.  Folks cry all the time.”  And its true.  I have seen men and women cry from the most senior to the most junior. I have seen blubbers and sniffers and blinkers and more people than I can remember get “something in their eye”.

Most people need to work.  Most people spend a lot of time at work.  And we see them going through some of the hardest situations that they will come across, whether it is a disciplinary, redundancy, maternity, rejection, restructure or mediation to name but a few.  These are stressful moments in their lives and they are allowed to react like human beings.  That is only normal.

What is abnormal is to think less of someone because they are stressed or upset.  It is abnormal for HR to want to be so hard and macho in its drive to appear “commercial” that it loses touch with how people feel, how they are impacted and what they fear.  Sure bring on the jokes about tissues and sympathy, bring on the snide comments about HR being soft.

I deal with people.  People have emotions.  I’m ok with that.  It’s those that aren’t that have a problem.

5 Comments leave one →
  1. Ministry of Truth permalink
    11/25/2009 17:06

    Well said. Having had one of my colleagues crying this week, I empathise on this one. Like the new site.

  2. 11/25/2009 18:30

    Good to hear about the compassionate side of HR – thanks!

  3. 11/26/2009 09:06

    @Ministry of Truth – Thanks for the kind comments. Yep its never nice, but its human.

    @mkeeffer – Thanks. I like show I have some compassion every now and then… between the rants.

  4. Corporate Daycare permalink
    11/27/2009 20:45

    Thank you for this.

    Although I jokingly refer to Friday as Cryday, I do feel that it is as important for HR to recognize and deal the softer side of the biz.

  5. 11/27/2009 22:16

    @Corporate Daycare – Good to see you here! I guess it is a question of balance? We are business people, but we are also people?

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